Hi! I’m Iva Veazey

So many people have been hurt or abused because of their sexuality, gender identity and/or alternative lifestyle, including myself. I came out and then returned to the closet for a time, before finally reclaiming my right to live my truth. Now I want to be a part of the healing force that empowers those in alternative lifestyles/sex styles to thrive in the life they choose.

Due to my background in Performance/Musicians Wellness Coaching, my studies at Sex Coach University, and my meditation certification and experience, I can offer strength and inspiration to those that want to step into their fullness. This is especially true if who you are doesn’t fit neatly into society’s predefined roles and rules regarding gender, sexuality, or love style. Developing self awareness gives you the strength to step into the world as a whole person, which gives you the power to live your gifts.

My dream and my goal is to be a safe and healing force in the LGBTQ+ community. I wish to assist others in finding their way into a new and more fulfilled life, without guilt or shame. I aim to be a powerful resource for the ever-expanding world of gender/sexuality diversity.

My Story

I initially came out in college, but after two years, my religious programming made me feel like it was essential to “choose a man” as the best spiritual path. So, I went back into the closet and spent most of my adult years focused on a heterosexual life. But no matter how nice the man in my life was, it was never comfortable and my relationships were always short-lived.

After much meditation and inner soul searching, I finally looked in the mirror one day and just asked out loud, “What the hell is going on here? What is missing in my life?” Knowledge of my true sexuality and my attraction to women became unmistakably strong. At first, I tried to brush aside the issue by saying, “Well, maybe, but what’s the big deal…?” Finally, I was able to admit to myself: IT IS A BIG DEAL!

I have been on a path of self-discovery for many years and this was a pressing part of it. And then the realization hit me: Coming out is just a first step in this journey of personal truth.

Self-transformation can be wonderful, but it can also be scary. I get it. Learning to live authentically is ultimately its own best reward, though, and I can help you through that process. My career path has prepared me perfectly for this.

Now I am a graduate of Sex Coach University, with a focus in LGBTQ studies. My desire to become a sex coach was inspired, in part, by “coming out” for the second time later in life (in 2014). As a result of that experience, I feel driven to assist others in finding their way out of programmed lifestyle expectations and into a freer, more genuine way of living and loving. My decision to become a sex coach is also due to a lifetime desire to work in the field of sexology.

I am a professional member of the World Association of Sex Coaches, a Certified Performance Wellness Coach, a Certified Transformation Meditation Instructor, and have over 30 years of experience in music education.